See Goleman Emotional Intelligence pp. 124-125 (also footnote 15 p. 321) where the source is given as Terry Dobson who studied aikido in Japna in the 1950s. Story is retold in Ram Dass and Paul Gorman How Can I Help? (NY Knopf 1985)
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